My daydreams about romance over the last ten or fifteen or sixty years have been an up and down learning experience. Maybe my whole life’s work.
What, you ask? Doing your life’s work as a daydream? Daydreaming is just a waste of time, isn’t it? Absolutely not.
Scientists have living proof that we learn fastest and most actively when we are very young. For one reason, our brains are growing quickly, but for another more obvious and subtle reason: Babies are daydreaming.
Daydreams are full of the source of wisdom. It is the time when our conscious mind can actually become one with small portions of our unconscious. Most of the time our conscious monkey mind is stuck sitting on the top of our hippopotamus unconscious mind. Both wanting to go in different directions, the monkey thinking it’s in charge, and the hippo who’s gonna do, whatever it wants.
When we daydream, we get our monkey and our hippo together. The monkey can get right down to the details of the hippo’s needs and the hippo will let the monkey get right up close to that part so the monkey can see it all clearly, and running in slow motion. So the conscious mind can direct the learning and the unconscious mind can learn, learn, and learn some more.
So how does this work with “Romance?” Well, It’s probably what you daydream about most, isn’t it? Because either you got romance, and you think about it almost all the time, and you are loving it — OR, more likely in our culture, you daydream quite a bit about what a REAL romance would be like for you. So you are already daydreaming about romance, aren’t you?
So how come, you don’t have that romance that you need? If all my stuff about daydreaming is true, then with all the daydreaming that you have done,you should be a genius of romance by now!!!
Well, that’s where we can have this little talk.
Daydreams like you may usually know are pretty passive affairs: You are letting the dream play itself out, according to it’s own rules. All that gets you is a moments pleasant diversion.
But hey, it’s a DAY dream, and you are really awake and conscious: and fully able to re-wire any part of that dream that you want to. Just tell your dream to change, tell it what you want it to change to, and make sure it knows that you mean it.
It’s easy to learn, and mostly easy to do — unless you are so much in a daydream that you forget why you are daydreaming. It’s so much faster and incredibly effective when you have someone who can get you into a daydream state-of-mind, and give you suggestions for a better day-dream, and deliver it with enough authority.
Do you know of someone like that? Well, I am that kind of person. Because I am a hypnotherapist, and I help people daydream… Because that’s what hypnosis is all about. Directed, constructive, daydreaming. Daydreams that can help you learn, help you physically, emotionally and spiritually, help you live better, and yes, help you have a better relationship and better romance.
So what would you like to improve?
If you are in honolulu, contact Jim Hinds
