Listen to Me, Sweetie — A Valentine’s Day Romance

Sweetie, let me finish. I know I was out of work for 3 years.  I was beyond broke and could not support you at all, and you found a wonderful guy.

And I think that is totally OK. I love you and I know the intensity of your deep affection for me. I know you valued that unique communication and rapport we had. But when you needed help with life, I was not man enough to step in and kill all of your money and security demons, and he did that. When you asked me to back away so you could open your heart to him, I did so unwillingly, but I had no other option.

So now, I have done the most craven and desperate thing I could have done. I may be a worthless person, but I know how to make a woman happy. Yes, that’s what I know: you and some other great women have taught me that secret knowledge. I may not be the best at it, but it’s what I do best.

I was facing economic ruin: I was homeless, I had huge debts that I could not avoid even with bankruptcy, I knew I would not last out on the streets, or worse yet, in prison. So forgive me for what I did: I found a woman on DateCompassion.com. I kept looking until I found a woman who was a rich widow. I went out of my way to make her feel the most queenly and respected person: simply because her first husband loved her. It was what she needed to hear. It still is what she needs to hear. And I’m happy to tell that to her.

Yes, I do that because that keeps me off the street, it keeps me fed and clothed. I have nothing else except my commitment to her: I have signed a pre-nup with her that makes it so I have absolutely no access to any of her money after she dies. That is still better than a live on the street, or in a men’s “correctional” facility.

So, sweetie, there is one thing I have. It’s small, and it’s of no value whatever.   But, every year, I am allowed two full weekends in the town of my choice to not have to deal with my current life. It’s my emotional release package. The only proviso is that I bring back no diseases or debts. I have a pre-loaded visa card with $40,000 dollars for the two weeks, to spend in any way I wish. I know you are now married, but if you could name the city, and let me know when, I can have the tickets sent to you tomorrow.

It’s up to you.  Name the town, name the date, and be with me again for that short, sweet time.

Alright ladies, here is the question:

Would YOU go?

Romance of the Entrepreneur

Years ago, I was  bitten by the “lets start a business” bug, and it has never quite let go.  The first time was with a Silicon Valley start up named Nestar Systems.   It was the brainchild of a professor I studied under at SUNY/Buffalo in the early 1970’s, Harry Saal.   He had a vision of using the very first generation of personal computers to play games via modem.

He had a great vision, but the computers we were using: the TRS-80, Apple II and the Commodore Pet, were not quite as easy to link up as we can do today.  So Harry scaled back his idea and shifted  to linking up these computers to a centralized disk for storage.  He envisioned that a cluster of these computers would be a tool for schools.  Actually it was a great idea, but the slow growth of computers in the school system in the late 1970’s turned the idea into a fantasy.  Still, the Nestar Cluster One was the very first Local Area Network available on the market.  The market just was not very big.

I left Nestar Systems on New Year’s Eve: December 31, 1979.  I went back to Santa Barbara (what a great place) and decided that I, too would start a business.  And I did:  Stellation Two.  We made a circuit board for the Apple II that allow a second CPU to work with the Apple’s CPU at the same time.  True multiprocessing.  Again a first — The first multiprocessor personal computer on the market.  The market just was not very big.  It was a fun ride that had ups and downs.  Months of high hopes and growing sales, and years of slow market decay.

That elusive goal of actually connecting with the energy of the marketplace has alway called me ever since those days.  So after 25 years, I’m plunging ahead with a new venture, TweeParty.

Everybody is talking about Twitter: it has caught on incredibly!  But most everyone I know says something like: “I tried it once, and I didn’t get it.  Why would anyone want to do that.”  But the people who do use twitter, actually find it is really effective.  How?  What is the secret that makes the difference between these two kinds of folks?

I had been fascinated by that question,  in addition to Twitter itself.  As you may see, many of the posts on this blog are actually generated from Twitter Searches — it shows what people are commenting about.  I zero in on romantic topics for this blog: “soft kiss” or “make up sex” or similar.

But that does not answer the question at all: “Why would anyone use Twitter?” If I told you it is to be social, your reaction is likely to be “Bull-Roar” — However, change your perspective just a bit.  Most social conversation is essentially small-talk.  Snippets of pretty much useless banter.  And it’s true, small talk is trivial.  But most humans do it quite nicely.  It is as easy as, well, small talk.

Small talk has always been a challenge for me, though, as a touch of Aspergers has given me the uncanny ability to totally miss the point.  And that’s it, there is no point, except to go with the flow of the conversation.

And that is the secret of Twitter between friends.  A respected authority on the use of Twitter, AlohaArleen mentioned to me that Twitter is just line a cocktail party, with people chiming in to a group conversation.

But the text based representation that Twitter shows to users is just too remote from that image…  That’s when I had my inspiration for a visual representation:  TweeParty!  At TweeParty,  you see an visual representation of the people that are your contacts, the ones that are most active: chatty, if you will, are right up on top of your browser.  The newer icons are sharper and well defined, and the ones that have older tweets are grayer and are near the bottom of your window.  You browser will constantly refresh the party bringing new tweets into view.  All  you need to do is scroll your mouse over the icons, and see all the tweets that have come in for that particular person!  When you find something interesting, you simply click  and a menu and entry panel come into view.  Simply select the action you want, type in your own response, and click!  You are part of  the party.

I’m really excited about TweeParty and have spent countless hours putting new features in.  It is a little clunky,  and definitely in Alpha development mode, but it adheres to the strict security that Twitter advocates, is very robust (I have left it updating on an ancient Internet Explorer 6 for hours with no problems), and allows you to start off with a beginners view of the Tweet-iverse with what I call a temporary socialite account.  All you do is click on a link and tell twitter that you will use tweeparty for a while (the authority goes away when you close your browser).

Simple, fun and effective.  I hope  you check  it  out.  I’m running it under my “mom-de-plume” as Mom’s TweeParty

The Sacred Space

This is a new concept that I have been turning over and over in my soul and mind for several months.  It all began with the Bill Brauer painting “the Gold Dress” — It is a stylized representation of the differing energies of the dance of love: of romance.

Why is it the guy is in the background?  Why not have him as a flamenco peacock?  A dance of equals?  In my review I talked of the supportive role the man had to bring her energies to the front.  That set off a contrast of ideas that I needed to turn over and over to gain a full view of this dance of life.

You see, what the man is providing is the “sacred space” — Sacred,  not so much as in the religious sense,  but as in the sense that it is so precious that it must be protected at all costs, so the space can work it’s magic.  And what is that magic?

The magic is that the woman can blossom into the fullest realization of her potential.  As she can define it.  But it is not just man an woman, it is power, and beauty: Yang, and Yin.

So what qualities make up this sacred space?  The Yang energy must create it and enlarge it and defend it.  The Yin energy must fill it with the delights of the Yin: the highest refinement of  her energies.  Beauty and richness and grace.  The protection of the yang must surround the space, and may dance within the space, but within that space, the  Yin is allowed, encouraged and nurtured to flourish unrestrained.  Anything less makes it the dank prison and not the sacred space.

It is easy for the dominate energy to turn inward to rule over the space,  but unless that energy enlarges the space and makes is more to the liking of the Yin, it is useless.  This is how many men direct their frustrations with the  world back into their home life, and make the woman a prisoner, a slave.  A truly strong man would  not do that.

Equally sad is when the Yang energy is muted, by job loss, or illness, or emotional exhaustion, and can no longer keep the space pure and open.  The Yin energy is no longer able to be pure Yin,and unless the pair can change over, and allow the  Yin to repair, the dance will dissolve.

Yang!  Be strong: allow your mate the space to grow, and  thrive and blossom.  You will harvest a crop of blessings.  Yin: Take every advantage of the space while it lasts, enjoy it , expand your capabilities, and know you are loved: make the space within a loving nest for your mate to recuperate.

And if, by some sad chance that you need to exchange roles, become as receptive to the needs of the Yang, as it was of yours

What is it that inflames our passions — March 16, 2009

lorenson: @calixta I know U expect a "Hell Yes!" frm me, but it’s not an easy answer. It’s yes…only if U have a goal in mind & the passion to get it
2009-03-16 19:42:11 · Reply · View
Beaker: RT @adamjodonnell: New goal: learning to let passion come through in my writing without pissing off people, or at least those that matter.
2009-03-16 16:29:34 · Reply · View
adamjodonnell: New goal: learning to let passion come through in my writing without pissing off people, or at least those that matter.
2009-03-16 16:28:18 · Reply · View
AriStern: Nice article on pursuit of passion, plus great rule for goal-setting & self-improvement. RT @Mrbuzzfactor : http://tinyurl.com/dnz3sl #goal
2009-03-16 15:16:17 · Reply · View
AriStern: Nice article on pursuit of passion, plus a great rule for goal-setting & self-improvement. RT@Mrbuzzfactor: http://tinyurl.com/dnz3sl #goal
2009-03-16 15:15:04 · Reply · View
funkadeliks: i think i shd just make the passion/safra run my goal first lah. hahah
2009-03-16 05:55:23 · Reply · View
R3lla: MY 09" Goal>>>I’m a Nursing MajoR who iz Workin on gettin out in communities and broadcasting the need for good health the key iz my passion
2009-03-14 21:56:25 · Reply · View
LouisFVargas: My son is now a U.S. Marine. Lost total of 121 lbs within 1 year. WOW! That’s passion, commitment to a goal & sticking to a plan.
2009-03-14 19:50:02 · Reply · View
Omaniblog: Look at the passion in the irish legs. See how they wriggle in tackles. ROG about to kick for goal again. already 4 from 5 scored. Bang
2009-03-14 18:31:37 · Reply · View
G4Shallow: Now that was rubbish. No fight, no passion and no interest. My son was bored throughout and that’s not like him. Missed our goal too /sigh
2009-03-14 17:27:55 · Reply · View

Twitter Tweets about soft kiss as of March 15, 2009

tomgost: Sometimes u wanna kick Jon Stewart in the shin for being soft on a guest. Sometimes you wanna kiss his shoes and do his dishes.
2009-03-16 04:11:33 · Reply · View
HotWomenLover: @AdriValentin BIG hug from me with a very soft kiss on ur cheeks … im sorry u feel this way bebe ,, whats the matter?
2009-03-16 04:01:42 · Reply · View
yourexsilly: My kingdom for a kiss upon her shoulder,all my riches for her smiles when I slept so soft against her
2009-03-16 02:49:15 · Reply · View
edwardsheroin: @_EdwardCullen_ *Sweet,soft kiss,my hands finding yours*
2009-03-15 23:32:44 · Reply · View
poets: If I could kiss a star,
the only one I’d kiss would be you.
Soft lips, eyes blue, warm touch, you.
If I could whisper words to the …
2009-03-15 13:20:08 · Reply · View
sam_cefalo: soft kiss and wine.. what a pretty friend of mine
2009-03-15 02:55:54 · Reply · View
Raezilla: @perezhilton Plz don’t kiss Speidi’s ass. You are getting soft perez… Havent you seen Almost Famous. They are not your friends!
2009-03-14 22:56:48 · Reply · View
Bozzers: My sheets are stained with memories of your soft kiss. Now this is all I have: Paper and pen to remember you with.
2009-03-14 18:55:06 · Reply · View
FrostedMushroom: And when you kiss me there, a soft explosion fill the air. You know you got me dear.
2009-03-14 14:56:15 · Reply · View
LeahClearwaterx: @edwardsheroin Lets get going, then. :winks and places a soft kiss on your neck:
2009-03-14 02:48:40 · Reply · View

Twitter Tweets about soft kiss as of March 13, 2009

Sallyned: just texted ‘yes’ to 66609! And then had to go give a very sleepy Harry a big kiss and cuddle! i’m so soft!!
2009-03-13 23:00:41 · Reply · View
LeahClearwaterx: @edwardsheroin Aw, and I’ll be here for you day and night. :places a soft kiss on your cheek:
2009-03-13 21:34:19 · Reply · View
alaricseven: HANDEl tonic morning sun friends lovers kiss carnations good beef substance in the air lilts soft command pressurey and insistence imperial
2009-03-12 19:55:28 · Reply · View
Dzawnie: @melkytown it was fun. he ask me for a kiss. I kissed him full on his very soft lips. i will never wash them again.
2009-03-12 02:29:52 · Reply · View
Samanthahope: Soft kiss and wine, what a pretty friend of mine, we’re finally intertwined. Be my secret valentine?
2009-03-12 00:18:55 · Reply · View
Samanthahope: soft kiss and wine, what a pretty friend of mine, we’re finally intertwined. be my secret valentine?
2009-03-12 00:15:24 · Reply · View
sicknastyemily: soft kiss and wine, what a pretty friend of mine. were finally intertwined. <3
2009-03-11 21:07:42 · Reply · View
_EdwardCullen_: @edwardsheroin Afternoon, love. [Returning your kiss with a soft smile, pulling back to look into your eyes] I’ve missed you today.
2009-03-10 22:33:11 · Reply · View
darkdelights: Embracing the rhymes of the sandman as his whispers grace my eyelids like the soft kiss of a rose petal…..
2009-03-10 05:58:04 · Reply · View
maxmcnally: "Children of the world, we’ll do it
With song and dance and innocent bliss
And the soft caress of a loving kiss We’ll do it."-WTF MJ?
2009-03-09 02:27:47 · Reply · View

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